Talk about naughty things The verbal way to create sexual tension is to talk about various spicy subjects. Let her know that you find sex to be a completely normal and natural subject to talk about. It also gets her thinking about the subject in general. After all, you did bring those ideas into her head. In any event, there are lots of different ways to introduce sexual topics into your conversations. You can begin by telling various stories or anecdotes where something sexy has happened. You can also ask her various sexual questions like if she has ever kissed another girl. Ask her the craziest and most unusual place she had sex in. Make her choose between having sex before going to sleep or after waking up.