Good sex can come down to good communication — how well you and your partner can articulate your needs and desires. After analyzing the results from an international qualitative study, the researchers, Devon J. The team then looked closer into these four techniques using a cross-sectional, online, national probability survey of 3, American women ages 18— In other words, they looked at the specific sexual moves and methods that turned them on. Even if both partners are female, the two of them may not have had the language to communicate needs to each other. These words open that door. Paget also points out that the top question most men ask her is: How can he make things more pleasurable for his partner? They enjoy it more if she enjoys it more.